By Reverend Dr. Ed Hird
Life is messy. Family is messy. Marriage is messy. Church is messy. How do we navigate through the complexities of daily life? A key to healthy sailing through life’s storms is gratitude.
The 19th century Cambridge resident, Charles Simeon, once said, “What ingratitude there is in the human heart.” It is so easy to end up as a complaining, grumbling person when things don’t go our way. The best therapy for a complaining or fearful attitude is to switch from grumbling to thankfulness, from moaning to praising, from bellyaching to belly laughing.
Dr. Patrick Dixon commented that someone who can never laugh is as emotionally imprisoned as someone who can never cry. Dr. Dixon notes that laughter alters the levels of various “stress” hormones such as cortisol, dopamine, adrenaline and growth hormone—all released when we are tense, working hard, worried or afraid.
In typical office stress, all the hormones are released but no exercise follows and the body suffers. We develop stomach ulcers, clogged arteries, irritability and a host of other problems—all because the body is pumping out hormones we don’t need. Laughter, says Dr. Dixon, shuts down these hormone levels, keeping them low. Interestingly, endorphin levels (natural morphine-like substances) seem to remain the same following laughter.
More research is coming to the forefront showing that gratitude and joyful laughter are connected with healthy living, while grumbling is connected with diseased living. Dr. E. Stanley Jones once said, “If you are unhappy at home, you should try to find out if your wife hasn’t married a grouch.” Worry, fear and anger are the greatest disease causers. We need to prune from our lives all tendencies to fault-find, blame and put down others. Instead, we need to practice daily the healing therapy of “counting our blessings.”
I would encourage you to take ten minutes today to write down ten gifts that you have received in your life that you are thankful for. It might be your children, your work, your sense of humor, your spouse, your parents, the trees and mountains, or the country of Canada.
Then, practice saying thank you for these wonderful gifts. It always helps to have someone to whom to say “thank you.” As the source of all good gifts, it only makes sense to express appreciation to the Creator of this mysterious universe. As someone once said, happiness is seeing a sunset and knowing who to thank.
I am more convinced than ever that each of us was born to be thankful.
Ingratitude is like putting sawdust into our car engines. Through an attitude of gratitude, we are protecting ourselves from countless diseases that could otherwise come our way. Our immune system is a remarkably delicate mechanism that cannot handle acidic emotions like bitterness, rage or malice. I challenge you, therefore, to find out for yourself whether an attitude of gratitude will improve your emotional and physical health. Over our kitchen table is a wall plaque with the words, “In everything, give thanks.”
How might gratitude bring more healing into your life?
Rev. Dr. Ed Hird and his wife, Janice, will be guest speakers in January 2020, for the OSL Telephone Conference Call. Their topic: Healing Marriages and Relationships